A divorce isn’t easy on anyone, let alone children who may not understand what’s happening. That’s why it’s important for you and your co-parent to work together to build up your children’s confidence and to help them understand that you are both still there to support them in their lives.
After a divorce, many parents still feel at odds with one another. One of the best things you can do is to work out a way to co-parent without the conflicts you had during your marriage. Why?
- Helps them feel more secure and like they can be openly loved by both parents
- Helps children more easily and quickly adjust to divorce and the new living situations that may come with it
- Have a healthy example to follow in the future when they face conflict
- Helps them build healthier emotions and mindsets
- Encourages them to learn about better ways to solve problems despite differences in opinion
- Gives them the consistency they need to know what to expect and what is expected of them when they’re in either parent’s home
You may think that it’s nearly impossible to co-parent successfully if you and your ex-spouse were at odds in the past, but pushing past resentment, anger and hurt to focus on what your children need can help you refocus that negative energy into something that will help your children grow up stronger.
The courts like to see parents who work together, too. Co-parenting and shared custody can work if you both agree to put in the effort to resolve conflicts and raise your children in a positive atmosphere.