As a married couple, you and your spouse simply did not work well together. You had different ideas about how to raise your children, when to spend and save money and your roles in the household. As a result, you’ve both decided to get a divorce.
While your divorce is amicable, you know that it can have a negative impact on your children. That’s why it’s smart to think about how your actions will affect them before you decide on the steps to take next.
If you have small children, remember that they need security, routine and support
While all children need love and support from their parents, young children need the additional security of regular routines to feel comfortable. As you and your spouse separate, remember to keep routines as similar between homes as possible.
If you have older children, prepare to explain your choices
Within reason, children should know why the divorce is happening and what will happen next. For example, you might tell your 12-year-old child that you and their other parent no longer get along, but you both want to raise them from separate homes.
Children of all ages need your guidance during divorce
Divorces are challenging, even for adult children. No matter how old your children are, remember that your guidance will help determine how they handle the divorce. Try to deal with it with grace and dignity.
As you move forward with your divorce, you’ll be able to address concerns as they arise. Be comforting and honest, and you will help your kids through this tough time.