In families, there are plenty of stressful situations that can lead to a breakdown in communication, trust and love. Couples may struggle with adultery, fertility problems or other major concerns that eventually break down the marriage. Sometimes, those problems lead to divorce.
When you’re trying to decide if a divorce is right for you, you may be unsure where to begin. There are some questions you can ask yourself, though, that may help.
1. Do you want to remain in a marriage?
Perhaps the most prominent question is whether or not you’re happy being married. If you don’t want to try to work on the issues you and your spouse face, then divorce is likely inevitable. However, if you and your spouse are willing to go to counseling or to try to communicate with each other more clearly, then you could work on fixing your marriage instead of turning to divorce.
2. Are you financially secure?
Divorce has the potential to be expensive. You may have to move out of your home and afford fees and expenses related to your legal affairs. Before you file, make sure you have the financial strength to support yourself.
3. Is there anything either of you could do to save your marriage?
If you feel that you just need better communication or that you need your spouse to work more or less, then it may be a good idea to talk about your frustrations before turning to divorce. Therapy can be a great help to struggling couples. In some cases, your spouse may not have even known there was a problem.
If you do decide to divorce, your attorney will help you start the process and talk to you about what to expect moving forward.