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Be careful of how you ask for a divorce

You're well aware that the divorce process will challenge you in many ways, but that doesn't mean you should stay in your marriage and hope for the best.

Instead, you need to bring your true feelings to light so that you and your spouse are on the same page.

Co-parenting communication tips: These can help

Co-parenting is sure to bring many challenges to your life. On one hand, you don't want to have much communication with your ex-spouse. On the other hand, you must do what's best for your child or children.

There are several communication tips you can follow to make life easier on you (and everyone else) when co-parenting. Here are five to keep in mind:

  • Keep your focus: When communicating with the other parent, stay on topic to ensure that the conversation moves forward as planned.
  • Remain positive: No matter how frustrated you may be, there is no reason to take a negative approach to the conversation. A positive tone will always work in your favor.
  • Explore your options: There is more than one way to communicate with the other parent. For example, you may find that phone calls work best for the two of you. However, others have come to realize that email or text messages are best for keeping the peace.
  • Don't make demands: If you do this, the other parent will go into "defense mode." And when that happens, the conversation can take a turn for the worse.
  • Be cooperative: Even if you don't get along with your ex-spouse, you need to cooperate to ensure the best possible life for your child. This may mean making concessions every now and again, and there's nothing wrong with that.

Can a property division checklist help your situation?

When it comes to matters of property division, don't be surprised if you run into a variety of challenges.

As complex as your situation may be, there are steps you can take to ease the stress and put yourself in better position for success. For example, you should consider the benefits of creating a property division checklist.

Seeking hidden assets during divorce

Divorce brings uncertainty, and you may be among those divorcing couples in California who are feeling concerned about your future. Even if you have lived a comfortable life during your marriage, you now face the prospect of losing a great deal, including possessions, income and time with your children.

Based on your understanding of the status of your finances, if everything is fair during your divorce proceedings, you should be able to move into this new phase of life with financial security. However, how would you know if your spouse is stashing away assets, whether to provide more security for his or her own future or simply as a spiteful gesture to keep you from getting your fair share?

These co-parenting tips can improve your life

After a divorce or separation, you may have many concerns about co-parenting. Although you need to do what's best for you, there's nothing more important than the well-being of your child.

Here are five co-parenting tips that can improve your life, all the while ensuring that you and your child maintain a strong relationship:

  • Be flexible: There will be times when a flexible schedule is a must. Don't lose sight of this if the other parent asks for a change.
  • Don't turn everything into an argument: There will be times when you argue with the other parent. Your goal is to minimize these arguments by picking your battles wisely.
  • Think about the other parent's feelings: It's not always easy to do, especially if you are no longer getting along, but practicing empathy will help keep the peace.
  • Open up the lines of communication: You don't have to talk about anything else, but when it comes to your child, you need to have a communication plan in place. From texts to phone calls to emails, there are many ways to stay in touch.
  • Respect his or her time with your child: When your ex-spouse is spending time with your child, don't interject yourself and spoil the experience.

Splitting retirement accounts in divorce: Remember these points

There is a lot to think about during the divorce process, with property division placed high on your priority list.

In the past, the family home was the biggest sticking point when dividing assets. While this is still important, retirement accounts should also command a lot of your attention.

Does your spouse want a divorce? Look for financial clues

It goes without saying that most people know when things aren't right in their marriage. Even so, you may overlook some signs that divorce is closing in on you.

It's only natural to focus on your personal relationship with your spouse, such as how you are getting along and how you deal with any arguments that come to light.

Things to consider when creating a parenting plan

Creating a parenting plan during your divorce is easier said than done, as you'll need to closely work with the other parent in order to figure everything out.

Despite the fact that you may not agree on every last detail, you'll want to go into the process with the idea that compromise will go a long way in putting a bad situation in the past.

When your ex wants to move away with the kids

You may have thought there was no more helpless feeling than the one you experienced as the court ruled on your custody arrangement during your divorce. The precious time you share with your children became even more important after you were limited by a court order, even if the time was split equitably between you and your former spouse.

However, you are now feeling a new level of helplessness since your ex-spouse notified you of his or her intentions to move away with the children to another city or away from California altogether. While it is reasonable to feel like the situation is out of your control, knowing your rights in a relocation situation may help you make wise moves to protect your custody privileges.