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Never use your child as a messenger between you and your ex

If you are a parent who is involved in a conflict-ridden divorce or who still can't communicate amicably with your ex, you may find that it's easier to send requests or information to your coparent through your child. After all, they're not going to lash out at their child in the same way that they speak with you, right? Nonetheless, parents should never be communicating through their children.

There are many alternative ways to communicate if you and your ex-spouse don't get along. You can leave messages via voicemail, send text messages or use a monitored chat service through the court system, for example

Do you wonder what will happen at your child custody hearing?

When you began your divorce proceedings, you may have hoped that you could work out a custody arrangement for your children out of the courtroom. This hope may have come from hearing that many couples are now doing this in order to make the proceedings less stressful on their children and themselves.

Perhaps you attempted to negotiate with your future former spouse but to no avail. Unfortunately, for whatever reason, an out-of-court option isn't going to work in your case. You will need to go to court in order to resolve this vital issue. Now, you must prepare for court, but you don't know what to expect.

Grief: A part of divorce

During a divorce, there is a chance that you could be living with grief. It's normal to feel sad about the end of your relationship and the loss of the community you built with those in your new family. You know that you may have to lose friends or people you've come to be close with other than your spouse, which makes your divorce extremely difficult for you.

It is important to take the time to grieve after a divorce. The reality is that you may be stressed or hurt from what you've gone through, and it will take time to heal. Taking time for yourself to focus on the things you love and care about is a great way to do this.

Remember these 2 tips to handle parenting disputes

Parenting issues often arise during divorces and afterward, because parents are trying to adjust to raising their children between homes. Of course, there are times when all parents argue or disagree on how they should raise their children. The most important thing is that both people can agree to work together to resolve their dispute and do what's best for their children.

If you find yourself in a difficult situation with your ex-spouse and are struggling to work out how to handle a problem with your child or their schedule, it's a good idea to know a number of ways to communicate your concerns and work together to resolve them. Here are two important tips.

Work with the right professionals during your divorce

High-asset divorces have a lot of complex factors to consider. From deciding how to handle the marital home's sale or transfer to splitting up retirement accounts, there is a lot to do.

As someone who is going through a high-asset divorce in California, you may be aware that the state has a community property law. Without a prenuptial or postnuptial agreement, you will likely need to divide your marital property in half. This can make things more complex in some cases, but it is by no means impossible.

Ask yourself these questions before turning to divorce

In families, there are plenty of stressful situations that can lead to a breakdown in communication, trust and love. Couples may struggle with adultery, fertility problems or other major concerns that eventually break down the marriage. Sometimes, those problems lead to divorce.

When you're trying to decide if a divorce is right for you, you may be unsure where to begin. There are some questions you can ask yourself, though, that may help.

3 tips for successful parenting after divorce

Parenting issues happen whether you're married, separated or divorced. No one can be prepared for everything that can happen when they parent, even if they've always thought about what they'd do in certain situations.

When you're divorced, it may be more difficult to handle problems that occur when they involve your child. You may have different parenting styles or be unsure of how to punish them between homes. Fortunately, there are a few things you can do to be on the same page.

Prenuptial agreements in a community property state

You may think a prenuptial agreement is not for you. However, you may not realize that you already have one. The state of California has rules in place for dividing marital property during a divorce, and those rules may not conform to the terms you would have chosen.

As a community property state, California's laws state that you and your spouse will split all community property 50-50 if you should divorce. In most cases, community property is anything you and your spouse acquire during your marriage. This can quickly become a complex matter, especially if decisions about who gets what arise at the height of an emotional breakup. Before you dismiss the idea of a prenuptial agreement, you may benefit from learning as much as possible about its advantages.

Why work with an attorney to divide your property?

When it comes to dividing your complex property, it's not always going to be as easy as choosing the assets you want. Sometimes, one asset's benefits are linked to another asset's purchase, or you may have assets that only benefit you or your spouse after several years have passed.

Accommodating unique assets and finding out how to get you the most out of your marriage is your attorney's job. They are familiar with complex property division cases, like dividing businesses or stocks so that they can help you understand what happens when you divide your own property.

Get help with your high-asset divorce

A high-asset divorce doesn't have to be complicated, but they are usually complex. Working with an attorney who is familiar with a high-asset divorce case and has a track record of positive outcomes for their clients is the key to moving forward and knowing your interests are protected.

A good divorce attorney is familiar with things like dividing 401(k) retirement plans, finding missing or lost assets, getting items evaluated for their worth and more. When you talk to an attorney for the first time, don't be scared to ask them about their history and if they have a track record of success.